Wedding planning can be extremely stressful, and it can cause dissonance in any relationship – it doesn’t matter if you’ve only been engaged for a week and are getting married next month or if you’ve been engaged for a year and are taking your time to plan everything out. I recently got married, and after being engaged for over a year, I can definitely say there were times that I felt stressed, beat down, and just wanted to cry! The one question that I continually asked myself was, “What is this really all about?” – it was really about me marrying my best friend! Of course I wanted all the plans to work out, everything to be perfect, etc., but I needed to keep reminding myself that the most important thing was the fact that I was marrying the man of my dreams. When I thought about it that way, the stress was lifted! Even if you’re not looking to plan an extravagant wedding, the days leading up to the big day can be stressful, especially if you have children. Here are some helpful tips on “No Stress Wedding Planning:”
- Ask yourself, “What is this really all about?” – you are marrying someone that you hope to be with for the rest of your life, so make that your main focus!
- Take deep breaths – if something isn’t going your way or if you start to get frustrated, take a deep breath and a time-out before addressing the situation.
- Take breaks from planning and from discussing the wedding – talking about your wedding 24/7 can lead you to get burnt out, annoyed, and stressed; take a nap, watch some TV, have a date night, do something fun as a family, etc.
- Don’t try to do everything yourself – ask for help and involve your partner, your family, etc.
- Lastly, when you actually say “I do,” be in the moment and don’t think about anything else but your partner – what is done is done, and all you can do from this point forward is enjoy!